Welcome to the home of the
“I am not Haraam” project - a blog created for
LGBTQ Muslims by LGBTQ Muslims.

Haraam is an Arabic word used in Islam to mean “forbidden”. This project has been started as a way for LGBTQ Muslims to stand up and proclaim that we will not allow our existence as LGBTQ Muslims to be erased any longer.
We are not kafirs, we are not deviant, our existence is not a sin. This is our space to say:

Call for submissions
We’re calling for any Muslim who identifies as part of the LGBTQ spectrum to submit to this blog. Allies and supportive families of LGBTQ Muslims are also welcome and encouraged.
The theme for submissions is quite simply,
“I am not haraam”
(or “my son/daughter/lover/sibling is not haraam”).

We’d like you to share what it means for you to be an LGBTQ Muslim. You can tell us about your struggles, your everyday life, anything that makes you, you!

Submissions can take any form; text posts, audio posts, art work, poetry, video etc.

How do I submit? You can submit by clicking on “submit” at the top of the page or by emailing iamnotharaam@gmail.com

If you have any questions please don’t hesitate to message us.
Please note: This is a positive space for LGBTQ Muslims. We will not publish or respond to any negative or hateful remarks. We will not respond to any message asking us to justify our existence as LGBTQ Muslims.


1. Know that you have been conditioned to hate every fiber of your being through a history that has demonized your spirit but before times like these you were celebrated and honored. Your spirit was seen as something beautifully created by a higher power.


2.You will be sexualized as a person and because of it you will be thrown into a scene where hyper sexuality will be something highly promoted so remember to not get lost in all the noise and lights because once the music dies you will be forced to listen to the beat in your heart in absolute darkness.


3. Don’t act on insecurities. Oppression will lead you to believe that we are men and because of it predatory and patriarchal sex is something that we embody. This is False. Violence comes in many forms and often times we are the perpetuators of our own demise.


4.Shit is bigger then sex and sexuality. You will be forced to examine life through a multi dimensional consciousness and come to an understanding that you are an intersection of things, a complex being that embodies many struggles beyond borders and gay marriage.


5. Find your purpose and know that it is not your duty to educate folks about your being but to stand your ground and command the respect you deserve. After all you are in this earth for a reason and granted a voice to speak your truth. No one can tell you what path to walk because only you see what lies ahead.


* In the end love yourself and know that just by doing that you are creating a revolution and writing a new narrative

A lil something fabulous for you today.

(via yosimar-deactivated20140312)

Asker avonsmizanin Asks:
I'm 14 and bi, and I'm a muslim too, I'm afraid to come out in real life because I know people won't like me anymore and my parents will hate me, I know it may be a sin but I can't control my feelings, you know? Am I going to hell? What should I do?
iamnotharaam iamnotharaam Said:


The most important thing here is to pace yourself. Don’t let anyone or anything make you feel rushed to come out. Some people you will feel comfortable coming out to, and others you will not. Since your safety and well-being (emotional, too) are paramount, that should always be a priority. 

When you do feel ready to consider that move, we have a post that should help.

I can’t tell you what awaits any of us in the afterlife, but approaching all things in life with the best intentions is the only real advice that I can give there. 

Finally, work towards building a community, if you can, of positive and supportive people even if online. That’s part of what makes Tumbler so amazing and the reason why we at IANH decided to band together. 

We’re always here if you need us


This is a pretty dense read but I think it’s well worth it.There are some points in there that really speak to my everything. InshaAllah, you’ll find some gems in there for you. 



Salaams, good peoples!

There’s this. 

Juuuuuuuuuuuuuuuust in case y’all wanted a lil something to dawwwwwwwwwwwww over… 

Hello :) I’ve made a coming out video that I think would be of help to many that are not yet out and would appreciate it if you could share this with as many people.

Submitted by love-me-or-hate-me-rawr


Today after class I went up to my sociology teacher and let her know that she got the definition of bisexuality wrong


Today after class I went up to my sociology teacher and let her know that she got the definition of bisexuality wrong, and that it doesn’t only acknowledge two genders, and she laughed and said “no, you’re wrong. I have to disagree with you on that.” And I was so fucking mad like, not only did she tell a bi person that she knew what bi meant more than they did, but she laughed at me.

And she was all “that’s why a lot of people identify as pansexual. Because bisexual doesn’t include other genders.”

AND SHE FUCKING KNOWS IM TRANS and like I mean I didn’t tell her I’m bi but I kind of expected her to respect that and trust that I know what I’m talking about when it comes to the lgbt stuff.

Like if bi didn’t include trans people I think the trans kid would know about it.

So yeah like I told her that its attraction to the same and other genders and that a lot of people identify as bi who acknowledge and are attracted to nonbinary people and she was just kinda like “fine whatever you say” and like I was just so mad like there was smoke coming out of my ears cuz fucking straight ally thinks she knows everything.

The only people who get to define bisexuality is the bisexual community. If you are a straight ally, if you are a gay ally, if you are a lesbian ally YOU do Not get to talk over and talk down to a Bisexual Person who is explaining to you about There Own Community and Orientation.

STUDENTS: If this Ever happens to you, PLEASE Contact Us via Ask (you can even be anonymous if you wish) and we can arrange to have the correct information conveyed to your school or university in a respectful + professional manner.

When I was 17 years old I was a senior in high school. I was wearing hijab and I went on everyday with my life with the idea that one day I am going to have a huge fancy wedding with prince charming. That my hijab is part of my identity and who i am, but is that true? It most definitely is not. 

I have been wearing hijab since I was 4 years old. Yes 4. How ridiculous does that sound? To be honest that’s not really the problem. I have never identified as gay and I still don’t but that one relationship with a girl that I had turned my perspective around, a 360 degree turn. 

My dad used to tell me that gay people are sick, my mom was repulsed at the idea of two men or two women kissing because it was “haram”. Is it haram? Only Allah knows. Anyway, back to being 17 and meeting the most amazing girl in the entire world. Meeting this girl, her name is Nalani. She was the most beautiful, exquisite, free-spirited person I had ever met. There was a problem at the time in my head though, she was still a GIRL. I was so confused at the time that she was a girl that because I had cared about her so much I was actually mean to her because I couldn’t comprehend that I actually had feelings for another woman, it was just so abnormal to me.

Meanwhile, a lot of time passed and I continued to struggle with my relationship because I loved her so much but we were hiding from the entire world. I mainly struggled with the idea of simultaneously accepting my hijab any my sexuality. We hid our relationship from the world for three years. I had been engaged to a man while Nalani and I were together because I thought that it would help mask my feelings for her, that obviously didn’t work. We both struggled for years trying to make sense of the hiding and that no one would ever accept us, it drained our relationship to the point where there was nothing left. On december 16th, 2013 my only girlfriend that I had fought to be with and suffered for years at a time for left me. The hiding was an external factor undoubtedly, but there were other internal factors that aided in her decision to end it. 

Everyday for those 3 years i lived in constant fear of someone finding out. After my g/f broke up with me, I decided to take off my hijab and come out. Let me tell you, that this was the hardest thing I had ever had to do. I took my hijab off because I realized that I had no idea who I was, that I was only wearing hijab because I was afraid what people would say about me taking it off. I only stayed in the closet about my relationship because I didn’t want people to stop talking to me and my family to disown me. Now, the whole world knows about the relationship with this phenomenal young woman that I had in my life. Although we are no longer together I will never be ashamed to say that she was my girlfriend. I always struggled with the idea of being Muslim and being in a same-sex relationship, only to realize that those are two completely different things. I still have no idea what to identify myself as, but I ‘d like to keep it that way for now. My family was shocked and so were my friends. I used to introduce Nalani as my “friend” for years and to come to realize that she was my gf they couldn’t believe it. Many people distanced themselves, and many people actually became closer to me. My family still can’t accept it, I don’t think they ever will. That’s alright though, because they are my family. It’s a struggle everyday to say that I am Muslim and that I may like women too. It’s something many Muslims in the LGBTQ community struggle with. I just want you all to know though that it’s not the end of the world. Do not fight what feels right to you. If you are a man and love a man, if you are a woman and love a woman, do not fight it. Allah will judge you and only you. Allah swt is the most compassionate and forgiving, he is the all-knowing so don’t fear, go with what feels right. I wish I would have done this a long time ago. Stay strong.

TW: I do talk about domestic violence some but that’s not the whole thing


If you missed last nights AGG on Air’s “Meet Our Writers” series you can check it out here… I had a great conversation with writers Lani Ledisi and Mr. Tye West. 

As a matter of fact, you can listen to all of our shows by clicking here. 

Oh and did you know the entire Back2Us radio family can now be downloaded from iTunes… Pretty cool huh? You have no excuse… Download, listen and share… 


My first radio interview…well.. since I’ve been out.



I do feel there is a preoccupation with that. The preoccupation with transition and surgery objectifies trans people. And then we don’t get to really deal with the real lived experiences. The reality of trans peoples’ lives is that so often we are targets of violence. We experience discrimination disproportionately to the rest of the community. Our unemployment rate is twice the national average; if you are a trans person of color, that rate is four times the national average. The homicide rate is highest among trans women. If we focus on transition, we don’t actually get to talk about those things… By focusing on bodies we don’t focus on the lived realities of that oppression and that discrimination.


Laverne Cox

Salaams, Good peoples!

Ms. Cox speaks the truth here. Let us do our parts to protect our trans* community. The Ummah is supposed to be a safe space for all humans. Let’s do our part to ensure that.